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How Resilient Are You?
Being a parent of a child who has additional needs you learn very quickly how to be resilient. How to bounce back. I learnt quickly that there was very little time for wallowing and self-pity. I most certainly had my breakdowns but they came when I was off the clock. When the kids were awake, I had to be mum. I had to be in charge of cooking, cleaning and managing all of the things that was requested of me. To pay the therapy bills and organise the appointments and do the menu planning. But let me make one thing clear – was I resilient at the beginning? Absolutely not. The scales were 100% tipped more to anger, blame, shame and frustration.
Forgive Yourself
Well, this is a big one. Its one that took me a very very long time to be able to do. To forgive myself. In the beginning I didn’t feel worthy of forgiveness, in fact, I felt the opposite – I felt I must be punished because it was my doings that had somehow caused my beautiful boy’s diagnosis. I was at fault and I should feel the full force of that punishment. I begged God to punish me, for the universe to punish me so that by feeling the pain, I could then let go of the pain. Little did I know that that’s not how you learn lessons in life. That’s not how to learn what the journey is in life. That’s not how to work out the purpose in life.
4 Tips to end looping
Looping, in some instances can be downright damaging to one’s mental health. Looping for those of you who don’t know what it is – it’s when you have the same or similar thought looping through your mind. Thoughts around what you could have done differently or acted differently. When you’re in the cycle of looping its very hard to break on your own, therefore, its not until you or someone else can interrupt your looping pattern that you can be free from its harmful grips.
My Journey with Anxiety
Anxiety was one of the first emotions I felt after receiving the diagnosis. The tightness around my jaw from clenching so tightly throughout the days and nights would provide me with so many headaches and very sore gums and teeth. The anxiety never left. It would stay like a loyal friend, ready to launch its attack in the middle of the night. It would wake me from my slumber and instead of whispering sweet nothings into my ears it would whisper all the ways in which my future and his future would never be the same.
