“Does It Get Easier?” What I Tell the Mums Who Ask
“Does it get easier?”
A client asked me this recently.
It’s a question I remember asking myself, over and over again, when my son was first diagnosed.
Back when everything felt uncertain. When I couldn’t see past the grief or imagine a future that felt even remotely okay.
When she asked, I felt a warm ache in my chest. Because I knew exactly what she was really asking.
She wanted hope.
And I gave her my honest truth:
“Yes, it gets easier. Not because the challenges disappear, but because the sting doesn’t cut as deep.”
She nodded, but I could see in her face that it wasn’t the answer she was hoping for. Maybe she wanted me to say that life is extraordinary now. That the pain is gone, that I never worry anymore, and that joy has washed away every hard moment like some magical reset.
I wish I could say that. But I won’t lie to the mums I work with.
The reality is—yes, life can get easier in many ways. But the ache? It never truly disappears.
It softens.
Instead of slicing through you like a razor, it grazes the edges of your heart—sharp, but no longer tearing you apart.
Through coaching, I’ve learned to sit with it.
To meet the overwhelm when it comes.
To recognise the sadness, the panic, the guilt—and not let it swallow me whole.
I’ve learned how to breathe again.
How to find moments of peace even in the chaos.
How to show up for my son, and for myself, with compassion.
And I’ll be honest—there are still days where I wonder what life would have looked like if we hadn’t received the diagnosis. Would it have been easier? Harder? Who would I be in that version of life?
But then I remember:
I wouldn’t be here.
I wouldn’t be running You Are Seen.
I’d probably be back in the corporate world, climbing a ladder I didn’t even want to be on. Wondering why I still felt so empty.
I wasn’t prepared for the path we were thrown on. None of us are. Even when we think we’re ready, nothing can truly prepare you for the emotional weight that comes with an autism diagnosis.
But I wouldn’t trade it.
Not for a second.
Because alongside the brutal challenges have come lessons I never knew I needed.
I’ve learned more about myself and my son than I ever thought possible.
And through it all, I’ve gained something no one can take away: wisdom.
I do what I do because I remember being her.
The mum crying in the corner, not knowing how to move forward.
The one numbing the pain with a drink because reality felt too heavy to carry.
The one drowning under the pressure of expectations that no longer matched her life.
Now, I get to support those mums. I get to show them what’s possible.
Because life doesn’t have to be an endless loop of grief and struggle.
It can hold joy.
It can hold lightness.
It can hold hope.
We don’t get to choose the diagnosis. But we do get to choose how we show up in the aftermath.
You can choose a life that reignites your flame.
You can choose a path that feels meaningful, even if it wasn’t the one you planned.
And I’ll be here, walking alongside you—every step of the way.
If this has resonated with you, please do me a favour and share it with those walking a similar journey. They too need to hear the words that one step is enough today.
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Podcast Episode #34: Simple Hacks & Sensory Play: Making Everyday Magic with Whitney from Wing it with Whit
I got the chance to speak with Whitney, creator of Wing it with Whit, an Instagram page where she shares fun, low-prep, and affordable activities for kids at home. As a former elementary teacher, a special needs educator and a busy mum, she’s passionate about helping other parents make everyday moments more magical—without the overwhelm. From DIY crafts and sensory play to mum hacks and relatable parenting humor, Whitney brings a realistic and encouraging voice to life at home with little ones. Her content is all about keeping things simple, creative, and joy-filled—even if you’re just winging it. In our conversation we spoke about:
▶️ The one thing mums should know when doing an activity with your autistic child
▶️ The two craft supplies every home should have
▶️ The importance of allowing the child to take the lead
▶️ What mums can let go when teaching or playing with our kids
▶️ Why not all activities need to be academic based
🎙️Whitney has a freebie that you can grab in the below link.
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